How to Help Someone Struggling With Suicidal Thoughts
September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month. Licensed counselor Stephanie Abbott shares warning signs, how to start a hard conversation, and where to turn for help.
September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, a reminder that hope is always worth talking about. As a counselor, I've had the privilege of walking alongside people in some of life's darkest moments and seeing that healing is possible. People who are struggling aren't looking for someone with all the answers. They are looking for connection, someone who will listen without judgment and remind them they don't have to carry their pain alone.
What Are Some Warning Signs That Someone May Be Struggling With Suicidal Thoughts?
There isn't always one obvious sign, but there are often changes that tell us someone may be carrying more than they can manage alone. They may withdraw from loved ones, lose interest in activities they once enjoyed, express hopelessness or feeling like a burden, experience changes in sleep or appetite, or seem unusually overwhelmed. Trust your instincts. If someone doesn't seem like themselves, don't ignore it.
Should I Directly Ask Someone if They're Suicidal?
Yes. One of the biggest myths is that asking about suicide puts the idea into someone's head. Research tells us the opposite. Asking directly creates an opportunity for honesty and lets someone know they are not alone. You don't need perfect words. Simply saying, "I've noticed you haven't seemed like yourself lately. Are you thinking about hurting yourself or ending your life?" communicates care, not judgment.
Can Someone Who Has a Strong Faith Still Struggle With Suicidal Thoughts?
Absolutely. Christians can experience depression, anxiety, trauma, grief, and overwhelming emotional pain. Following Jesus does not make us immune to suffering, nor does seeking help reflect a lack of faith. God often works through His people, including trusted counselors, to bring hope and healing.
At Valley Christian Counseling, we are honored to offer Christ-centered counseling that thoughtfully integrates biblical truth with evidence-based clinical care for those who desire it. Our privilege is to walk alongside people with compassion, wisdom, and practical support as they pursue healing.
What if I'm the One Who's Struggling?
Please don't keep it to yourself. Tell someone you trust, a family member, close friend, pastor, counselor, or healthcare provider. If you are in immediate danger of acting on suicidal thoughts, call 911, go to your nearest emergency department, or call or text the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. In our region, 988 connects individuals with FirstLink, providing immediate support, helping create a safety plan, and connecting people with local resources.
Your pain is real, but it does not have to be permanent. There is hope, and there are people who genuinely want to walk alongside you through this season.
We believe every person is created in the image of God and has immeasurable value. Even when circumstances convince us otherwise, our worth is not determined by our darkest thoughts or hardest days. Healing is possible, and you are never beyond hope.
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If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
Published September 17, 2026
